What Are You Worth? How To Negotiate Salary

According to an article on forbes.com, it takes a woman one year, two months, and three days to make what her male counterparts make in one year. I’m going to pause in order to let that sink in.

Doesn’t seem like such a big deal? Well, research shows that the discrepancy can result in lifetime salary losses of $375,000 to $1.5 million! Again, I’ll take another pause for the cause here.

What does this have to do with coaching and the intangibles that I love so much? Everything! Here’s an excerpt from an article about women and their uneasiness with power…including salary negotiations:

“In situations such as salary negotiations, studies show that women often believe that they deserve less than similarly qualified men and are, as a consequence, likely to demand less and to press their salary demands with less vigor.”

For those of us who love our athletes and want them to excel when they get to the real world, this is very disconcerting and it can’t be alright. Part of our jobs as a “significant adult” in their lives is to talk to them about things like this. Our ladies need to understand that negotiating salary is not only okay, but expected.

Sales Negotiators Know That It’s OK To Not Understand Things

One of the great myths of sales negotiating is that you always have to know everything about everything. It turns out that even the great negotiators can’t do this. There are a whole bunch of reasons why, but the important fact is that it’s not possible to always be on top of everything. It’s what you do when you find yourself in this situation that will distinguish you from other negotiators.

Why You Are Not Perfect

You aren’t perfect – so get over it. Even in the best of circumstances a negotiation is a fast-paced affair. During a negotiation we are trying to impress the other people on our team with how good of a negotiator we are. At the same time, we’d like to be able to impress the other side with how sharp and on the ball we are. The problem is that we fall off of that ball quite often.

Specifically what happens is that we get hit with a tidal wave of information as a negotiation progresses. The other side starts to throw facts, statistics, requirements, and demands at us very quickly. Trying to keep track of all that is being discussed can overwhelm even the sharpest negotiator.

Keep in mind that you are also under a great deal of pressure when you are part of a negotiation. There is generally a great deal riding on your ability to reach a deal that will allow your company to achieve great things. This pressure combined with lots of confusing information being thrown at you serves to leave you feeling lost and confused.